Your situation with your family sounds terrible, but I think one important thing you should realise is that you are NOT responsible for their well-being. The desire to help is both understandable and laudable, but you should not confuse it with obligation.
Ultimately each of us makes our own choices about our lives (even if that choice is to depend upon others - many make that choice without consciously realising it), and in this case it sounds like your family are choosing not to improve their situation, and also trying to make your life choices for you. I have a friend with similar familial issues and from experience I would suggest that you at least enforce some boundaries so that you can live your own life successfully, and if they won't play along with that, consider that you may have to leave them to fend for themselves and forge your own path elsewhere.
We only get one, short life - please don't spend it in the service of people who don't appreciate what you're giving them, or actively obstruct your efforts to help and improve your own lot.
Their situation is NOT YOUR FAULT. Repeat that every day until you believe it - if you want to help them, of course do so, but make it a matter of choice and try to do it in a way that doesn't ruin your own life.
Ultimately each of us makes our own choices about our lives (even if that choice is to depend upon others - many make that choice without consciously realising it), and in this case it sounds like your family are choosing not to improve their situation, and also trying to make your life choices for you. I have a friend with similar familial issues and from experience I would suggest that you at least enforce some boundaries so that you can live your own life successfully, and if they won't play along with that, consider that you may have to leave them to fend for themselves and forge your own path elsewhere.
We only get one, short life - please don't spend it in the service of people who don't appreciate what you're giving them, or actively obstruct your efforts to help and improve your own lot.
Their situation is NOT YOUR FAULT. Repeat that every day until you believe it - if you want to help them, of course do so, but make it a matter of choice and try to do it in a way that doesn't ruin your own life.