Both are true. I obviously can't trust that maintainers will do what they SHOULD do via common sense and online civility, so I SHOULD vet them appropriately.
Why do so many people insist on being aloof and unhelpful in communicating to users of their software? What is so hard about offering a modicum of context for what people can expect of you as a maintainer? It's so ideologically rigid and unreasonable.
Hell no. It that were the case, I'd never publish anything.
> You make it open and allow for contributions and see people are using it, you should be clear about your level of give-a-shit.
It is YOUR responsibility to see that for yourself by watching how the project is actually maintained.